How to Use the Art of Seduction Book in Real Life

The Art of Seduction (2001) is a mix betwixt a dark psychology text and a seduction manual for men.
Robert Greene, the author, delves into the psychology of dating and seduction, including the more Machiavellian aspects of seducing people independently of who gets hurt.

Contents

• Bullet Summary
• Full Summary
• Function I: Seductive Characters
  • #1. Sirens
  • #2. The Rake
  • #3. Charmer
  • #4. Charismatic
  • #five. Platonic Lover
  • #6. Dandies
  • #vii. Naturals
  • #viii. Coquettes
  • #9. Stars
  • Anti-seducers
  • The 18 Types of Seducer Victims
  • Part 2: The Seductive Process
  • Phase I: Separation
  • Stage II – lead off-target
• Phase III – The Precipice
• Phase IV – Moving In for the Impale First
  • Appendix A: Seductive Environments
• CONS
• Review

Bullet Summary

• Pick targets who are easy for seductions, not but targets y'all like
• Pick a target whom you really similar likewise -and never your same blazon-
• Seduction is about fantasy, idealization. Provide an out of the ordinary experience

Full Summary

About The Author: Robert Greene might not be a seducer himself and he doesn't accept any educational background in psychology.
Yet, when he talks about power dynamics and seduction he delivers more insights and wisdom than most selection-up artists or psychologists.
He is one of my favorite authors and his other books include "The Laws of Human Nature" and "The 50th Law".

Role I: Seductive Characters

In the first role of The Fine art of Seduction Robert Greene describes the different personality types and character traits of the best seducers.

For a deeper overview of male seducers types, check out:

10 Types of Male Seducers: Pick Your Niche!

#1. Sirens

The siren is highly sexual, confident, offer the promise of endless pleasure and a bit of danger.
The examples are Cleopatra and Marilyn Monroe.

Watch Marilyn Monroe here and read more on seduction here:

• How to seduce a homo case report.
• How to make him crazy

Robert Greene says sirens are the near powerful seductresses as they operate on a man's most basic emotions, and these work on everyone.

Dangers of Sirens:

Members of the same sex can get jealous.

Example:
Robert Greene righteously talks about Marilyn Monroe's orgasmic faces. Here is an example for you:

#2. The Rake

The Rake insatiably adores the contrary sex, and their desire is infectious.

The Rake is a great female fantasy-effigy: when he desires a adult female he volition exercise anything for her. Certain he may be disloyal, simply that just adds to his appeal.

The Rake is a guilty pleasure offering what society does not allow women: an affair of pure pleasance with the added bonus of danger.

To learn more virtually the rake blazon of seducers read:

• The psychology of womanizers
• How to spot a role player
• Signs you're dating a fuckboy

#iii. Charmer

Charmers want to please and know how to please: they are highly skilled social creatures.

Charmers seduce by removing themselves from the equation and taking full interest on their victims.
They will know what makes you tick, understand your pains and… Your weaknesses. Charmers make you experience understood and they feel better about yourself.

• Also read 33 Strategies of War

The Dangers of Amuse

Robert Greene righteously says that some people tend to view Charmers as slippery and deceitful, and it tin can create issues for you.

Charmers must know and so when to go rid of their flexibility and beginning acting inflexible.

Also read:

• How to be charming (with video examples)

#iv. Charismatic

Charisma is an exciting presence.

Information technology comes from inner qualities that make you lot stand out. It tin exist confidence, sexual energy, sense of purpose or contentment.
Most people lack these qualities, and what'south what draws them in.

• Read here traits and video examples of charismatic men

Contrary to Charmers, Charismatics thrived during turmoils, when they can evidence off their daring.
The examples in The Are of Seduction are Joan of Arc and Rasputin.

Dangers of Charisma

Charisma is as volatile every bit the emotions it creates, says Robert Greene.

#5. Platonic Lover

Ideal lovers thrive on broken dreams.

You long for adventures, romance, losing yourself in the moment?
The Ideal Lover will reflect your fantasy.

Appeal to lofty ethics together with the carnal desires and sexual affairs volition become sense-engulfing love affairs.
The Platonic Lover is rare in the modern earth because information technology takes much effort and time.

Dangers of Ideal Lover

You lot create a fantasy that involves the idealization of your own graphic symbol. If your faults get in the mode, you lot will destroy that fantasy.

#6. Dandies

Dandies similar to play with their image, creating a striking and androgynous attraction.

They alive for pleasure and surround themselves with beauty.

The sexes tend to have a chasm betwixt them and they don't understand the other. The Dandy is reassuring and feels comfortable for having similar traits.
The primal is ambiguity: you lot are heterosexual, merely you motion delightfully dorsum and along betwixt the two poles.

A difference with the Rake is that while the Rake's insolence is tied to acquisition a woman, the insolence of the Cracking is aimed at society and conventions: it'due south no a woman he'southward trying to conquer, but a whole social world.

Case:
An example of the slightly androgynous dandy is Russel Make:

Dangers of Dandies

The Art of Seduction nails when information technology says that Dandies are likely to be accused of being too masculine -for women- or likewise feminine -for men-.

And of course, insolence tin can get someone really angry at you.

#seven. Naturals

Naturals are spontaneous and open.

They bring us dorsum to childhood, the aureate paradise we consciously or unconsciously try to recreate.
They bring the states back to that time by embodying those child-like qualities such as spontaneity and sincerity.

The cardinal is to infuse your play with the conviction and feeling of a child, making information technology seem natural. The more absorbed you lot seem in your own joy-filled world, the more than seductive you lot get.

Instance:
You lot can see an example of child seduction in my article "how to drive him crazy".

Dangers of Naturals

Full childishness can be annoying, so the best Naturals combine adult traits like experience and wisdom with a artless manner.
It'southward the mixture of qualities that is most attractive.

#eight. Coquettes

Coquettes are cocky-sufficient.

They seem to say they don't demand you lot, and their narcissism is devilishly attractive.
Imitate the alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette to make your target chase fifty-fifty harder.

The real essence of Coquettes is to trap people emotionally. The hush-hush of the coquette information technology's not much tease and temptation, the secret weapon of the coquettes is emotional withdrawal.

Their withdrawal makes them mysterious… And it makes us insecure.
What if they've lost interest?

Example
Yous can see video examples of coquettes in activity in "how to seduce a human".

Dangers of Coquettes

Coquettes play with volatile emotions as love can hands shift into hate. Their absence can't be too prolonged, acrimony but must be followed by smiles every bit the negatives can't overweight the positives for too long.

#ix. Stars

Stars are ethereal and envelop themselves in mystery.

Daily life is mundane and can exist harsh. The star represents the escape into fantasies and dreams.
To be a star, The Art of Seduction says, you must transform yourself into a glittering object.

Dangers of Stars

The danger is that people volition tire of your illusion and move to the next up and coming star.
Once that happens you volition find it very difficult to regain your spot in the dominicus.

Anti-seducers

Greene dedicates a affiliate to the personalities and traits of the anti-seducers.
Avoid them at all costs unless you lot want to repel everyone:

• Brute: no patience and wants to skip seduction
• Suffocator: cling incessantly & loves also presently
• Moralizer: wants you to become like they want you to be
• Tightwad: money above seduction
• Bumbler: self-conscious and awkward
• Windbag: talk incessantly
• Reactor: terrified of having their ego hurt
• Vulgarian: ignores the rules of seduction and yet expects to win.
• Greedy: make it likewise obvious they're after things

See an case of the bumbler here:

The 18 Types of Seducer Victims

Don't call up that everyone lacks what you are defective and don't endeavour to seduce your own type.

1. Reformed Rake or Siren: long to escape what restricted their freedom
2. Disappointed Dreamer: stuck in a boring life and long for adventure
3. Pampered Majestic: long for prince charming to let them live the pampered fantasy of a royal life
4. New Prude: concerned with appearance and judgment, secretly long release
5. Crushed Star: long to beingness adored over again
6. Novice: excited of beingness introduced to a new, darker world…
7. Conquerer: give them an obstacle to overcome or a mission
8. Exotic Fetishist: want novelty, experiences, edgy stuff
9. Drama Queen: long for drama in their lives
10. Professor: clarify and ponder, just long being overwhelmed past a free spirit
11. Beauty: used to existence appreciated. Focus on subconscious features like her intellect or wit
12. Aging Baby: young and looking for supportive parent
13. Rescuer: long to experience like they're saving someone
14. The Roué: experienced in life and desire to educate someone more naive.
15. Idol Worshipper: seeking for a meaning in life
16. Sensualist: driven past their senses. Overwhelm their sight, aroma, and bear upon
17. Alone Leader: they're not used to being bossed. Human action equally their equal or superior
18. Floating Gender: float with them

Part 2: The Seductive Process

Phase I: Separation

Your victims live in their own earth, their listen is busy with their daily lives and daily worries.
Your goal in the first stage is to enter that world and becoming their great escape.

#one. Choose The Correct Victim

The perfect victim is the person who stirs you in a style that cannot exist explained. There should be some tension, the victim might fear you or fifty-fifty slightly dislike y'all. T

Here are a few categories of people like shooting fish in a barrel to seduce:

• Unhappy: Happy people are much harder to seduce
• Imaginative: a person with a good imagination is easier to seduce (they can fantasize nigh you)
• Manly: plow the aggression around with coquettish tricks and brand him your slave.
• Shy and introverts: are better targets than extroverts
• Disorganized & lost: men without a goal are ameliorate than focused ones.
• Lots of time: people with lots of time are keen targets. More times to recall about you
• Boring life

Robert Greene says that nosotros all want to be seduced.

#two. Create a False Sense of Security

If in the opening stages you lot tin can make your target recollect they are doing the first stride, you won the game.

Whatever activeness you lot take to permit them come up to you lot, avoid crowding your target: too much attention early on will propose insecurity and requite no room for imagination.

Robert Greene says:

1. Direct approach tin can be quicker, but
2. The indirect, carefully constructed seduction might reduce the number of your conquests but more compensates by their quality.

My Note:
I don't fully agree with Greene's have on direct/indirect approach.

Also read:

• Common cold approach VS warm arroyo

Cold Approach VS Social Circle (VS Tinder): Strategies

#3. Send Mixed Signals

Mixed signals suggest depth and it fascinates while it confuses.

A question mark, an elusive personality… It will make people want to know more, drawing them in.

The Art of Seduction says that keen means of adopting mixed signals are to prove attributes running against your physical appearance.

Warning: keep your hidden quality subtle or else you'll seem schizophrenic.
Also, some people prefer things to stay simple: everything depends on your target.

#4. Appear an Object of Desire —Create Triangles

The Art of Seduction says yous desire your target to run across you every bit someone other desire. And that they might lose to these others admirers.

Doesn't take to exist a specific conquest, but can exist a number of admirers and even past conquests.
You tin can make your target experience in competition with both your past and your present.

Also read:

• How to brand him value more
• Power move in relationships: leveraging competition

#5. Create a Need— Stir Anxiety and Discontent

The Art of Seduction reminds usa that a perfectly happy and content person is difficult to seduce. Hence, you should stir tension and disharmony in your target's mind.

Danger:

The risk is in going besides far and making your target aroused, or defensive.
Greene says in the start charm is better than making people feel bad (so skip the neg of the old PUA style).

#6. Master the Art of Insinuation

A useful skill in the Art of Seduction is the art of insinuation: making your target feel dissatisfied in a non-obvious, socially savvy manner.

Danger:

When the target is already interested in you, skip it.

#7. Enter Their Spirit

Understand them, vibe with them, similar what they like, adjust to their moods. Don't just mirror who they are, simply besides the ideal person they want to be.
Once they start opening upwardly you tin can turn the tables and permit them enter your spirit.

Danger:

Mirror for too long and they volition see through it and exist repelled by it. Mirroring is a tactic, a stride in your seduction following by them entering into your world.
It's important that beyond the mirroring you lot keep your own solid sense of identity.

#eight. Create Temptation

Lure your target with the temptation of the pleasure to come up.

Find that unrealized fantasy they have, that weakness they tin't control and tempt them with it.
Go along it vague, postpone the gratification and let their mind fill in the gap.

Phase II – lead off-target

Your victims are already intrigued by y'all, and your goal in this stage is to go them fully hooked and reach the point of no return.

#9. Continue them in Suspense- What'southward Side by side?

Reliable people are irksome. When they know what to expect from you lot, your spell is cleaved.

The Fine art of Seduction explains that surprises work because they create a moment when the defenses come up down and new emotions tin can take in.
Take them somewhere heady, get in seem spontaneous and natural. Or Suddenly announced before their eyes: a great tactic peculiarly if they already like yous.

Dogs are reliable, not seducers

10. Use Words to Sow Confusion

Use loaded words, sugariness ones, flattering ones. Make them feel improve, spun fantasies for them and give them promises. They will not simply listen, but get-go falling for you.

Danger of Demonic Words

Too much flowery language tin seem pretentious and it'south a sign of selfishness. Less is more: vague and ambiguous leave more room for imagination.

#11. Pay Attention to Details

The devil is in the details and the details are what will differentiate you from the masses.
Pay attention to your aesthetic "finishing coat". Remember their details and make gifts that hateful a lot to them.

Besides think of everything virtually yourself: the style you look, the way y'all walk, your moves, your poses.

#12. Poeticize Your Presence

People are dying to daydream about someone.

Embody some ideal or some cultural platonic of beauty. Chivalry, romance, chance.
Fifty-fifty roguery and evil are better than nothing.

#13. Disarm With Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability

Virtually people try to hide our flaws, only what's natural to our graphic symbol is also seductive. Something you can't control can be your most seductive quality.

Confess something bad about you, or something bad that you did. One honest gesture will comprehend many deceitful ones (this is a law of the 48 Laws of Power).

But don't overdo the vulnerability and read:

• Too much vulnerability is unseductive

Danger of Weaknesses

Some weaknesses similar neediness have no seductive value. And timing is everything: only share it when they're already falling for you lot.

#fourteen. Confuse Desire and Reality

Bring their fantasy into reality.

Create their fantasy or embody their fantasy.
The best illusions are the ones that practice not depart from reality too much. A bit like a drowsy dream.

#15. Isolate The Victim

An isolated target is easier to seduce.

Isolate them psychologically by having them thinking well-nigh you and physically past taking them away from what's familiar to them.

Make your target feel they're embarking in a great risk with yous, merely they are also losing something, similar their by or their comfortable life.

Phase Three – The Precipice

The Art of Seduction's stage III goal is to brand everything deeper. Once your hooks are deep into them, you volition exist able to move at will until they snap.

#16. Evidence Yourself

A self-sacrificing activity will overwhelm your target's emotions.

Don't wait for something exogenous to happen, put your target in a hard position and rescue them.

I'm glad Robert Greene says you should besides make your target prove to you lot: it raises your values and covers your blemishes (read: how to attract loftier quality men with mutual escalation).

#17. Consequence a Regression

The Fine art of Seduction brings united states a super powerful tool when it introduces the Regression.
Regression leverages the transfer miracle of psychoanalysis.

Ask nigh their childhood. As they talk, adopt a therapist pose. Be attentive just quiet, interject with nonjudgmental comments to continue them talking.

Don't just talk though, you desire people to act out their memories in the nowadays. Make your target feel like they are getting what they always missed with you lot.

The Art of Seduction describes the four types of regression:

• Infantile: the showtime bond with a mother is the well-nigh powerful i. The central for the regression is the unconditional love a mother has for the infant.
• Oedipal: must exist tailored to your target because you play the parental part
• Ego Ideal: let them feel they are getting close to being the person they wanted to exist.
• Opposite Parental: here yous play the office of the kid instead. Cute, adorable, but too sexual child.

Some types are more vulnerable to a regression:

• Serious and "developed"
• Full of themselves
• Seem in control

They're often over-compensating.
And positions of power can be more than of a brunt they subconsciously want to be free of.

#xviii. Stir Upwardly the Transgressive and Taboo

Nosotros all love to explore our night side, and then make your target experience they are going by those limits and into uncharted territory with yous.

You don't respect union vows, religions or historic period differences.
Someone to theoretically avert, but in reality terribly seductive.
The shared feeling of guilt and complicity will farther strengthen your bail.

In seduction, at that place is no power in respecting boundaries and limits.

#nineteen. Use Spiritual Lures

We all accept some insecurities virtually our physical appearances and if we just appeal to the physical nosotros take a chance making our targets insecure and doubtful.

Focus instead on something sublime and spiritual.
Art, the occult, an extra-sensorial experience.

#20. Mix Pleasure With Hurting

The greatest mistake in seduction is being too nice.

Try inflicting some pain instead.
Focus fully on them at the beginning, then of a sudden appear uninterested. Make them experience guilty and insecure.

The lower the lows you create, the higher the highs will exist.

The Art of Seduction says that many of u.s.a. take masochistic yearnings without realizing information technology. And when someone inflicts pain on us, the deeply repressed feelings come up to the surface.
Works best on those who have it easy, those who have ability and little problems.

The lower the lows you create, the higher the highs will be.

Danger of Pain

Don't do it too early on and on people who recently experienced lots of pain.

Phase IV – Moving In for the Impale First

Y'all seduced their heed, then dislocated and stirred them upward to seduce emotionally.
Now the time has come up for the concrete seduction. By now, your victims should be weak and ripe with desire.

#21. Give Them Space to Fall— The Pursuer Is Pursued

Once they are under your spell accept a step back to let them pursue yous. A touch of aloofness, a no bear witness, a hint of boredom.

Don't make it explicit, let them sense it and let their imagination practise the residue. Soon they'll be aching to possess you physically.

Dangers

Don't go absent in central moments of the seduction.
And don't exaggerate: the strategy is give and have, if you only take away for too long you might lose your target.

#22. Use Physical Lures

Combine a non-defensive mental attitude with a charged sexual presence.

While your relaxed, cool air is calming your target listen'southward and lowering inhibitions, your glances, voice and physical presence is raising the temperature.

To achieve it, it all starts from you. Train yourself to let go of your ain inhibitions, doubts, anxieties.
Your conviction and fluidity will take more intoxicating power than any booze or drug you lot could apply.

Dangers of Physical Lure

Few people experience repulsed past their sexual nature but many are uncomfortable with their bodies.
An arroyo working only on the physical level then will frighten and disturb.

#23. Primary the Art of the Bold Movement

Some targets will never make the first move.

And some women can become disgusted if she's long been set but the human being never made the motility.

Don't give them the fourth dimension to ponder over what's going to happen, to consider the consequences. Crete conflict, stir up tension, and the assuming motion will come up as a bang-up release.
If you're hesitant or awkward information technology means you're thinking of yourself. Be overwhelmed by the target'southward charm instead.

Dangers of Disrespect

While boldness can work wonders, uncontrollable boldness is more scary than seductive. And so you need to be able to turn it on at off as needed.

I person must become on the offensive, and it is you lot.

#24. Beware the Aftereffects

When emotions reach a peak, they can easily swing in the opposite direction if you lot're not careful.
If you are to office, make the sacrifice swift and sudden instead.

You tin can permit some reality and routing creep in: too much mystery will create doubts. Simply never let your target take you for granted.

If separation must happen, make it happen quickly and as beautifully equally the seduction.

Appendix A: Seductive Environments

Spaces with a theatrical, heightened quality -glittery or opulent for case- create a childlike feeling that make it hard for the victim to call back straight.

Something mystical can help block out the real world: astrology books, angelic imagery, mystical music from far abroad land.

Any environment offering the possibility of playing a different role, of being someone unlike than in normal day-to-twenty-four hours life, is immensely seductive.

My Note: here's some music you tin can play for a seduction night.

CONS

• Sometimes out of touch with reality

Sometimes it feels like at that place is no deep agreement of sexual market value and dynamics.

Greene talks about player Erol Flynn.
He says how he slept with a blackness adult female in Africa -but it'southward quite like shooting fish in a barrel for white men to sleep with black women in Africa, let alone for an attractive and confident one like Fynn. Doesn't fifty-fifty count as a seduction to me-.

In this video Greene also marvels at what a prolific seducer Flynn was:

Greene: and the math was quite insane, at some betoken he must have seduced everyone adult female haver other day, something like that. What was his secret? What made him so insanely successful?

Frankly, I was incredulous.
Is Greene really lacking this basic understanding?
The guy was a rich, attractive, famous actor.
That's the biggest sexual hack always.

He wasn't seducing anyone, he was just busting a nut every other mean solar day benumbed on his fame and on the women who went after him for his fame.

• Geared Towards the Old Days

"The Fine art of Seduction" is tailored to the sometime, classical times.

Many of the examples are before 1900, and the fact that messages are being discussed as a style of correspondence tells you this is not 100% a "how to seduce in the 2000s guide".

Check my best seduction resource if you're interested in more up-to-date seduction resources.

• The myth of "powerful men are into submissive roles"?

Robert Greene says that powerful men seek respite for responsibility, and frequently want to exist babied, female parent, or dominated.
Even so, Robert Greene's sources are non scientific researches or data-driven analyses. So, personally, I'm unconvinced.

And but for ane, Ogi Ogas says that:

Certainly, almost alpha males adopt the sexually ascendant role. But perhaps a minority feel a kind of psychological relief when taking the submissive part. Or some other possibility is simply that the motivation required to become socially dominant is unrelated to one'south preference for sexual authorisation.

Then it seems similar dominant in life is probably correlated to dominant in sex and relationships.
Withal, it seems that there's no real data.

Review

The Art of Seduction is an endless well of swell psychological insights.

Dark psychology, at times.
And of grade, heavy in amoral manipulation tactics.

Absolutely recommended to anyone who'south interested in seduction, power dynamics, psychology, and manipulation.

Warning:

Admitting so much of the information in The Art Of Seduction is great and Robert Greene does understand human being nature and psychology, some of the communication is counterproductive if you lot want to "seal the deal" with someone.

The Fine art of Seduction wants to give you an "platonic" seduction, just this "ideal" seduction is strewn over a long catamenia of fourth dimension where games and tactics will have your target fall head over heels for you.

That'south cool, but the longer the time, the more than likely something which can derail your seductions will happen.
Past moving quicker, instead, you can probably become more lovers in less time.

Also see:

• All-time dating books for guys
• Best dating books for women
• All-time crimson pill books
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• All-time books to manipulate people

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